How to Control Your Anger

“Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything.”

Anger is an intense emotion you feel when something goes wrong or when something happens opposite to you. 

Why it creates 

There are many common triggers for anger, such as losing your patience, feeling as if your opinion or efforts aren’t appreciated, and injustice.

The following are other possible causes of anger issues : 

• Stress
• Not feeling appreciated or treated fairly
• Financial challenges
• Work or relationship issues
• Bad experiences
• Violence or abuse

Side effects of Anger

Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:

• headache
• digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
• insomnia
• increased anxiety
• depression
• high blood pressure
• skin problems, such as eczema
• heart attack
• stroke

Some tips to control your anger

Being angry isn’t always a bad thing. Being angry can help you share your concerns. Like other emotions, anger is natural and even healthy too. But it is important to deal with it positively. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships. Responding to Anger is a way to learn how to identify when another person is angry and to react to that person by expressing your thoughts, feelings, attitudes and beliefs, without hurting yourself or others.

Count

Countdown (or up) to 10. If you’re really mad, start at 100. In the time it takes you to count, your heart rate will slow, and your anger will likely subside.

Express your anger 

It’s okay to say how you feel, as long as you handle it in the right way. Ask a trusted friend to help you be accountable to a calm response. Outbursts solve no problems, but mature dialogue can help reduce your stress and ease your anger. It may also prevent future problems.

Talk to someone

Nothing eases stress more effectively than chatting face-to-face with a friend or loved one. The person doesn’t have to provide answers, they just need to be a good listener. But talking about your feelings and seeking a different perspective on a situation is not the same as venting. Simply venting your anger at someone will only fuel your temper and reinforce your anger problem.

Write journals

The most effective way to control anger is journaling. Write down your everyday life experience so that you can identify your triggers. Even you can understand what is the reason behind your anger. Thus you can easily work on it.

Think before you speak

Anger can make you do unexpected things. It is easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything  and allow others  to speak. 

Get some exercise 

Physical activity can help to reduce stress. 15 to 20 minutes of exercise everyday can make you calmer and happier. Enjoyable physical activities like running, walking or exercises can reduce anger. 

Spend time with yourself

Give yourself a short break. Sit alone and recognize your triggers. Think more rationally about every moment of a day. By doing this, you will understand from other’s perspectives and come to a better conclusion than yelling at others.

Transforming Angry thoughts

Here we go → I can handle this

It’s never going to change → I trust that I’ll be okay

I can’t do → It’s okay to make mistakes

What a stupid idiot! → They’re having a bad day

Nothing ever works out → There is a higher plan

Try this tips from now.

Don’t forget to love yourself. Happy reading! 🙂

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